It may not be discussed, but children see it, they feel it and they are learning how to be treated and how to treat others while you’re “staying for them”.

1. What is my real reason for revealing this information to the children?
2. Are my children being harmed by the behavior I am about to criticize? Or are they being harmed by not having the information I am about to reveal?
3. How will it help the children to hear what I am about to tell them?
4. Do the possible benefits of revealing this to the children out-weigh the possible risks?
5. If I were still happily married to my spouse, and I wanted to protect our children’s relationship with him or her, How would I handle the situation?