I regained a sense of myself. I remembered who I once was and what my potential was. I had the energy to dream and accomplish again. My children have said to me they are grateful for the divorce because they’re not sure they would have ever known the real me if I had not.

1. What is my real reason for revealing this information to the children?
2. Are my children being harmed by the behavior I am about to criticize? Or are they being harmed by not having the information I am about to reveal?
3. How will it help the children to hear what I am about to tell them?
4. Do the possible benefits of revealing this to the children out-weigh the possible risks?
5. If I were still happily married to my spouse, and I wanted to protect our children’s relationship with him or her, How would I handle the situation?